My sweet little Princess In Training is the best baby ever and I am blessed to be her mommy, however I am at my wits end! I feel like I just made the most unhappy, colicky baby ever! Yes, I did get one smile, but now when I see the smile on the brink of being exposed it turns into a blood curdling scream! She is rarely content and this has turned me into the one armed mom as well! I know this was going to happen, but I don't remember it being daily with Sassy! It has been 8 years, so maybe I am wrong. By the time Eric comes home from work I have been on my feet all day trying to get the princess content enough to get things done! She does nap. That is why I have the chance to blog. But these naps last for an hour at a time.
Now here is why I am confused. This morning she did the same thing... screaming, eating, screaming, paci, more screaming. I was getting frustrated and dear hubby told me to lay her down in the bassinet so she can talk to her friend the plaid. Now I do try this but I could you not she is usually crying withing the first minute. Well my little one is now fast asleep in her bassinet and not in my arms for once. I didn't rock her, coax her, there was no bottle, or paci in order to do this, just plain old getting oneself to sleep on her own. It is moments like this that get me all excited and then she takes that away and we start all over yet again! I am thinking of trying a new formula, because this mommy is exhausted and wants to enjoy both my daughters!
As I say that it is now time to move on to Sassy Princess! When "P-I-T" was born Sassy made the transition very well! It will be 6 weeks on Friday and the honeymoon is O-V-E-R! Now before "P-I-T" entered our world I have been trying to get Sassy more self sufficient because 1. there was going to be a baby and 2. she is 8 and I feel what I am asking of her is what an 8 yo should be able to do.
She should be able to:
Take a shower with no help
Pick up after herself with no help (yes she was spoiled, but we thought she would be our only)
After story time, and a hug and kiss be able to go to bed on her own.
Put her clothes away (I do fold them)
I always tell her that she is to do these because she is 8. She is starting to say things like "if "P-I-T" weren't here you would help me." Maybe I would, but I feel that making her do these things will help her be that much more independent. I think I am behind and should have done this a long time ago, but I thought... "Well she is my only child, so why not?" "P-I-T" came into our lives and I finally realized I was doing more harm than good and see this on a nightly basis. These struggles are there when Eric is home, but of course not as explosive. Our relationship has been a little strained and I hope with some talking and one on one time things will get better!
I always stay positive and know for every bad day there are twice as many good days!
Have a Terrific Tuesday!!
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I know how your feeling trying to balance a baby and another child. My daughter is 3 and was such an easy independent baby. But my son he's a mama's boy and only wants me all of the time. So it is definetly a juggling act. My daughter favorite words are, "I want you." I want you to put me to bed, I want you to stay with my during the bath. I want you! It's hard but we'll get through it.
I hope you have a better day today! It must be tough, that's why little J is the only kid for me! haha. Feel better!
I feel for you! With the screaming baby and not knowing what to do to help them. My little Lady Bug (3 week old baby) has started to do this too and it just makes me want to cry to see her hurting. Today was (well seems to be) a better day. She has been sleeping a lot!
I wish my little Bug (son) who is 3 1/2 years old could shower, dress himself, use the potty instead of diapers, and make his own lunch or snacks. But alas, it is not so. I still do way to much stuff for him. I hope he doesn't start saying what your daughter said to you about if your second daughter was not born she would not have to do as much. He probably will soon enough.
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